It's actually not that hard to create a life that's really flowing, full of love and energy.
At one point, my life used to be a real struggle. I had inherited that "farmer" mentality from my parents and grandparents who grew up on dairy farms in the South. I believed that if I wanted to achieve anything of real value, I had to work hard and struggle for it. I'd get upset when things weren't the way I thought they were supposed to be. I'd get down on myself if I wasn't pushing, pushing, pushing to get ahead.
I know now that life doesn't have to feel this way. And it's actually pretty easy to turn things around. All it requires is willingness. The willingness to look at your thoughts and beliefs and a willingness to admit when they aren't supporting you in greater levels of peace and happiness.
When I developed a debilitating bout of chronic fatigue when my children were toddlers, I had to give up the struggle. I had to stop beating myself up and feeling guilty for not being Super-Mom, do it all, successful biz owner. I got humbled and I had to let people help me.
I had to draw stronger boundaries with my time and my commitments. I had to even take things off my plate that I enjoyed when my body told me to rest.
What was most infuriating is that the doctor told me, “We don’t really know what causes chronic fatigue. Frankly, there’s no cure for it.” It's the most obvious, logical thing in the world when a doctor tells you, there's no cure your illness to believe it. I felt stuck.
The turning point in healing from my chronic fatigue came with two MINDSET breakthroughs.
First, this "good" girl got defiant!
Which meant I refused to believe that I was stuck with the chronic fatigue - mystery illness! I kept affirming to myself, "I am drawing to me, the people and circumstances that I need to get healthy and well again."
Let’s be clear. This is not a DOING, PUSHING, STRUGGLING action. In fact, it is the opposite. It’s a MAGNETIC pull using the power of the creative mind to draw to me what I need by visualizing the intended outcome and allowing my subconscious mind to work on the solutions while my conscious mind is busy doing other things.
Second, the solution to healing was not a body thing. It was a mind, body, spirit thing! So I changed my sleep patterns. Then, I used hypnosis to clear the stressful emotions and wounded spirit that were connected to my dis-ease.
These two mindset shifts were the lynchpin. Draw to you your solution. Address the problem on all levels of body and mind.
Next time, you notice yourself feeling overwhelmed. Ask yourself, what am pushing for or against? Must you struggle? Or can you shift your mindset to support you in success with more grace and ease?
1) REFUSE TO BELIEVE YOU ARE STUCK! Because the minute you do that, you will stop looking for solutions and your subconscious mind which is a wealth of information and resources far beyond the conscious mind will stop as well. Just tell yourself, "I don't know the solution at the moment, but I will find it or I will meet someone who can help." Or use the affirmation I used above. Your subconscious is far more resourceful than you can imagine, it works on solutions in the background while your conscious mind is busy doing other things. That's why a name you've forgotten will pop in later or long after the test is over, you recall the information you thought you had forgotten. If you come to rely on this ability to use your subconscious for problem solving, it will enhance and become a source of confidence and wisdom for you.
2) OPEN YOUR MIND TO SEE ALL ASPECTS OF A PROBLEM. Many times when you are stuck, it is because you are not addressing your problem from a whole brain perspective. Put bluntly, sometimes analysis and logic is not enough. Oftentimes, there are hidden factors contributing to a problem whether they be emotional, unconscious, hidden mindsets or belief patterns. If you have a health issue, consider if stressful emotions are playing into the illness or disease. Also consider the possibility that the illness provides a payoff or gain for you on deeper hidden level. I worked with a client who had migraines for years. Through hypnotherapy, she discovered that they served the purpose of giving her an excuse to stay home from work, a job that she had grown to hate. Once she became conscious of this, she chose to quit her job! No more migraines.
Years ago, I quit engineering to make it my mission to help anyone who feels stuck. If I can help you, I would be honored to do so.
Meanwhile, sending you much light and love. The world needs your unique talents and light. You are meant to #makeadifference
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